The Attention Theory

Hello, my name is Maxim Babadzhan. I have sort of created my own theory, called ‘The Attention Theory’. This won’t be too long to explain.

My theory is that basically, all humans need attention, and that even though it might seem different, it all balances out and that everyone needs/gets the same amount of attention in the end.

For example: The angry, brooding male who seemingly has a lot of alone time, but frequently lashes out.

It might be interpreted that due to that person being alone more than others, they get less than normal attention. But might I digress: Like I said before, they are brooding and lash out. Due to all these lashing out episodes, the ‘victims’ of the lashing out frequently think about this individual, even in moments where no one is talking.

Now, compare this to the person who gets attention the ‘normal way’. This person might talk a lot or too little, but rarely get in tangents with people that’d involve the participants storming off and ruminating on how bad this ‘normal’ person is.

Therefore, the ‘quiet’ person who gets in many tangents, gets the same amount of attention as the ‘normal’ person who talks a fair amount.

The quiet person gets attention from normal social interactions as well as from other people thinking/ ruminating about them (after conflicts or whatever). The normal person mainly gets their attention through direct social interaction (conversations and such).

What is my point here? Both these people end up getting equal attention, and their needs are usually met, and to stop feeling bad for them.

Also on an evolutionary standpoint: These two examples can maybe explain other people and say that other similar humans get adequate/ equal attention as each other as well, even though it might not seem that way.